The original drawing was based on my middle son, when he was a teenager, and this son has also been on my mind these past few weeks, as his wedding takes place over the Easter weekend.
Or let me re-phrase that my feelings around becoming a “Mother in Law”!
Two of my sons are getting married this year. For the past month – I have not set foot in the studio – but I have been tending my garden like there is no tomorrow.
I love my two new daughter-in-laws-to-be. I am overjoyed that my sons are getting married and I am just so proud of all my children and their partners.
Yet somehow these imminent weddings have affected me more than I knew.
I thought I had embraced my age and in some ways I have – apart from the occasional moan about the fact that various parts of my body seem to be hurtling towards the ground – Gravity has a strange effect on the over 50’s!
However at another level – I know these weddings are also a milestone in my life, and for the past month I have been in the grey time, the liminal phase of neither here nor there. Somehow, not the same mother I was – and – not yet the Mother in Law I will become.
Tending the garden has been my metaphorical rite of passage – cultivating the soil, pulling the weeds and moving stones. A way of separating from the Mother I was, actively nurturing my children (Although in truth – I have not had to do this for a few years) and moving towards the Mother I will become.
Now – I send them joyfully into this new and exciting phase of their lives, while I take my new place as the “Mother in Law”